Some people say that love is a beautiful feeling while for others it is a suffocating feeling of dread. Every other person has his or her own distinct perception about love.  Just because you like to be in a relationship with someone doesn’t necessarily mean that your best friend like it too. Maybe he or she doesn’t understand the idea behind love. Maybe he or she is too afraid to fall in love.

Here is a list of 6 reasons why people are afraid of love:


Past experience

Some people tend to hold themselves back from falling in love just because of their failed relationships in past. Their past experiences may wary them of opening themselves up to someone new. Sometimes a person’s childhood experiences can contribute to his or her ability to love or be loved. If he or she has experienced high levels of stress as a child, there are chances that he or she may be carrying the baggage of past experiences into his or her adult relationships.


Fear of rejection

The fear of rejection is one of our deepest human fears. Nobody likes being rejected. Everyone wants approval from someone else in order to feel good about themselves. This is why most of us are afraid to fall in love. We all fear rejection in our lives at one time or another. Maybe we decide to not ask someone out on a date because we are too afraid that the person would decline. And a big part of our fear of rejection is our fear of experiencing hurt and pain.


Self- esteem issues

People with low self-esteem tend to feel that they are not worthy of being loved by someone.  Even when someone tries to express their genuine feelings for them, they consider it as a joke and believe that they are not good enough to be loved by anyone. They are constantly dealing with feeling of inadequacy, incompetence, being undeserving or unlovable. Hence, they always run away from any hint of love and affection.


Roller-coaster of emotions

Every relationship goes through constant ups and downs, highs and lows. Not everyone can deal with such a vast range on the emotional spectrum. Some people are afraid to fall in love because they consider themselves incapable of handling all of these extreme emotions that one has to go through while they are in a relationship with someone. Also, it gets all the more difficult to understand a third person, when they are already struggling to understand or know themselves better.


Fear of social disapproval

People don’t approach to new people or spark conversation with them because they are afraid that their friends and family will judge them in a negative manner. For them, the opinion of their friends and family holds utmost importance even if it puts their personal feelings at stake. This is why getting into a relationship with someone or falling for someone is a big thing for them. Even the thought of isolation from friends and family scares the hell out of them. As a result, to avoid disapproval, people keep themselves confined to their regular circle.


Fear of commitment

At times, even when a person loves someone truly, madly and deeply, he or she is afraid to commit the same. Not everyone is positive about the idea of being committed to one person for the rest of their lives. They don’t think that they can allow themselves to get too attached to someone so easily and that too for so long. And even if they do, the sole idea of taking someone else’s responsibility for the entire life keeps haunting them.


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